My son is 3 and some change, has been daytime potty trained since 30 months. He has been night time potty trained for 4 months now. I first knew it was time for him to start wearing his undies to bed when he started waking up in the middle of the night and crying that he had to go potty. He obviously would rather cry in his bed at night and be uncomfortable then go in his diaper, so it was certainly time and he's really only had 2 accidents early on and they weren't bad, cause he caught and stopped himself before he finished.
When these night wakings happened it made me feel awful that he'd sit in his bed and cry, so I told him to come to our room and wake up mommy or daddy and that we would take him potty. It worked quite well and he took right to coming into our room and specifically letting me know that he had to go. All was fine in the world.
Now I'd say he wakes up and does this about 4 or 5 days a week. More often then not he comes wondering into our room to ask me to take him potty.
Thing is I'm getting really tired of this and worried too. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and soon I'll have a baby (most likely attached to my boob during the night) and in our bed. It won't be so easy for me to get up and help him go potty in that situation, I'm thinking.
So we attempt to have Daddy help him, but it's not working. He'll start screaming for some reason that he wants me to help him, not Daddy.
We try to talk up the big boy aspect and that he knows how to go potty on his own. He does now how too. He does everything himself, but just wants me to sit there and watch him and then tuck him back into his bed. We leave the light on in the bathroom for him. And we're always talking it up telling him he doesn't need to wake us up he can go by himself if he needs too. The bathroom is even closer to him then our room is. He won't do it though.
Last night he woke me up at 1am and I was delirious and somehow looked at my alarm and thought it said 7, which means time to wake up, and I was not happy. He refused to let Daddy help him and he whinned at me when I told him he should go by himself like we talked about. So, I got up to go with him and helped him pull his pants down which caused an immediate melt down because he wanted to pull his pants down. I had to pull them back up and sit there through him crying hysterically trying to pull his own pants down. I ended up whinning to him about how he should be doing this by himself and that it makes no sense for Mommy to wake up just to watch him go potty, when he clearly knows how to do everything by himself. Of course this made matters worse and I ended up needing Daddy to help me calm him down enough to get him back to bed.
So, short of talking up going by himself and giving him the tools he needs to be successful for going by himself...i.e. leaving the bathroom light on and making sure he has on pjs that he can easily take on and off (we realized that we won't be putting him in footy pjs anytime soon since he can't get them back on by himself), what else can we do to help him go potty on his own at night time.? Am I expecting too much? Do I just need to back off and go help him whenever he wants? What am I going to do when the baby's here and I can't get up to help him? Have hubby help calm the baby if they are awake while I take the 3 yr old potty? Somehow force him to take Daddy's help instead and hope that he can adjust by the time the baby arrives? My husband is up anyhow when he comes into our room. He's a light sleeper and can hear him as soon as he opens his own bedroom door most times. Thanks in advance for any helpful advice on how you got your child to go to the bathroom by themselves at night.
ETA: We don't restrict his fluids before bed, but it's not like he drinks a ton of fluids pre bedtimes either. We do always make sure that he goes (whether he thinks he needs to or not) right before bed.